Before anything, I want to be clear that this is no reference or special citing post. In fact, I know about 75 percent of what I am talking about. I didn’t read a great book about race or anything before starting this post and I am only referring to that which I am familiar with. I will try to be less explicit as much as I can. I don’t mean to sound discriminative or offensive in any way and if it comes out wrong then I apologize.
To begin with, I grew up in an environment where race was not really a thing. Are people big on tribal identification and familiarity, yes! But nothing ever felt majorly wrong with that. It was all okay because in the end we all identified as one, a big ONE. God forbid we see someone from a different country! We call it hospitality, ignoring the fact that there was a culture of superiority imbibed in us by our forefathers that we have to pass on to anyone from outside our country.
Then I moved to a different cultural setting. I have been here a year and I feel the tension at times. I haven’t been treated badly or differently at work or in my neighborhood, no. If anything I have felt most welcomed and appreciated.
I had a friend who begun a sentence with “not to sound racist” and it felt so wrong. One time, a friend called me by my racial color and another said it was racist to say that. My first impression was “but I actually am”. A friend said to me, and in his words “these people are overly nice to us because they don’t want to come off as racists”.
Okay so these examples are to build a point, not to say who is right and what who should do. Honestly, I don’t think it matters. My point is everyone is walking on egg shells. Trying to be too careful not to be offensive or take offense.
My mum said someone (not sure so not going to guess) said, to paraphrase, the world is moving towards a direction where no one will recognize or see color because everyone will be so equal in the eyes of each other. Well I hope so!
I think as long as one race is ready to be defensive against racial discrimination and the other is working at not coming off racially offensive, there is always going to be some kind of barrier. I feel this causes more racial tension than actual open discrimination.
I am not advocating for any race, let me make that clear. I am just sharing my thoughts on what I have felt this past year and as I mentioned earlier, apologies to any one who finds offense in this.
I really hope that someday we get to that border line where instead of racial segregation, there is more writing on how far we have come as a people.